date: 6.21.2012
time: 4:04 AM
“Anyone can easily walk away from somebody else. Drop whatever it is because it's so much less trouble than to share some of the burden load. Nobody is forced to stay, we all have choices. The real test is if and when someone would rather stay with you, even though walking away is so much easier.”
At the same time, was listening to somebody else's story today and learnt something new: 'it takes courage to walk away sometimes.' I had always thought that it was easy or rather easier for one who wants to leave. It's like not wanting something anymore - so you throw it away. Because if you still want it, why do you throw it away in the first place? But, maybe not everything happens for a definite reason. Maybe they happen because they need to. Maybe they happen because you know that in the midst of all that sorrow and pain in taking the step, it will be better in the end.
I need to learn that people have their choices, that they aren't forced to stay with me. They can leave as and when they want to, and I can't do anything about that. I see why I'm selfish this way. Thinking only about myself, throwing out my reactions in hopes for them to stay, - I hadn't think about what's better for the other person.
It is after they had left, do I see that they are happy, better off without me. Sometimes, maybe, hurting somebody does not necessarily mean doing bad things to them. It could be just you being you, you being there - kills all the joy in their lives. And that's a form of hurting too.
I'm feeling so cold. Brr.
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